You all must have heard or read about this
lady that got married and presented to her dad a certificate of purity at her
wedding reception …good for her I must say but being a good wife and making a
marriage work goes way beyond being a virgin with an unbroken hymen( besides
the hymen could also be broken in many different non sexual ways so
technically, you could be “disvirgined” asexually)….Please do not get me wrong
, being a virgin is a virtue but so is being humble, accommodating ,
reasonable, being a home maker, a dutiful wife and mother and being a good
person generally.
There are
probably a thousand virgin related threads online i.e nairaland ( as if it is
one of humanity biggest problems) There are those for and against and some of
us that are really just indifferent….like what the fuss mehn, Relationships are
much more than sexuality people.
That you
have not had sex before marriage does not guarantee that you are going to be a
good wife or mother, non-nagging, neat and wholesome to the family, That you
are experienced in the sex department doesn’t guarantee that also but that
exactly is the point, Relationships and marriage especially is not about you
status of your hymen but the status of your mind, body and soul
Again I have
to point this out that even as I am a bit indifferent about virginity in any
lady I am interested in, I would like it if I got married to a virgin ( I can
teach her things) but I will also be happy if I got married to an equally
decent girl that may not be a virgin but connects with me on the levels I hold
important, like confidence, intellect, neat with a wonderful sense of humour, doesn’t
take herself too seriously and able to take decisions even when I am not there,
I can trust her to do good.
Lastly, it
is really hypocritical the way society seems to be hammering on female
virginity while the boys are free willys, I mean who are the boys having this
sex with….mermaids ? If you are a young
person that can hold body till marriage, do it my all means and may whatever
you believe in help you cuz like p square talk am, e no eazy o..but it is so
possible but if like some of us.
*cough*cough* you don chop apple…Don’t let your personality be defined
by your sexual status. This leads to the
question “What else are you bringing into that marriage besides being a virgin
or not?” There are things much more important in Life.
