Virginity vs Personality

 You all must have heard or read about this lady that got married and presented to her dad a certificate of purity at her wedding reception …good for her I must say but being a good wife and making a marriage work goes way beyond being a virgin with an unbroken hymen( besides the hymen could also be broken in many different non sexual ways so technically, you could be “disvirgined” asexually)….Please do not get me wrong , being a virgin is a virtue but so is being humble, accommodating , reasonable, being a home maker, a dutiful wife and mother and being a good person generally.

There are probably a thousand virgin related threads online i.e nairaland ( as if it is one of humanity biggest problems) There are those for and against and some of us that are really just indifferent….like what the fuss mehn, Relationships are much more than sexuality people.

That you have not had sex before marriage does not guarantee that you are going to be a good wife or mother, non-nagging, neat and wholesome to the family, That you are experienced in the sex department doesn’t guarantee that also but that exactly is the point, Relationships and marriage especially is not about you status of your hymen but the status of your mind, body and soul

Again I have to point this out that even as I am a bit indifferent about virginity in any lady I am interested in, I would like it if I got married to a virgin ( I can teach her things) but I will also be happy if I got married to an equally decent girl that may not be a virgin but connects with me on the levels I hold important, like confidence, intellect, neat with a wonderful sense of humour, doesn’t take herself too seriously and able to take decisions even when I am not there, I can trust her to do good.

Lastly, it is really hypocritical the way society seems to be hammering on female virginity while the boys are free willys, I mean who are the boys having this sex with….mermaids ?   If you are a young person that can hold body till marriage, do it my all means and may whatever you believe in help you cuz like p square talk am, e no eazy o..but it is so possible but if like some of us.  *cough*cough* you don chop apple…Don’t let your personality be defined by your sexual status.  This leads to the question “What else are you bringing into that marriage besides being a virgin or not?” There are things much more important in Life.